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  • Sur L’amour (French)

    March 11th, 2024

    Tu ne l’as pas aimée au premier regard, mais au premier contact.

    Aime-la à distance, aime-la en pensées, voilà ce qu’il te faut faire pour l’instant.

    “Un lourdeau”, voilà ce qu’elle dira de toi si tu insistes, donc aime-la à distance, aime-la en pensées.

    Avant de t’approcher d’elle, je veux que tu sois capable de supporter sa flamme. Connais-tu une pierre plus solide que le diamant, une pierre capable de résister au soleil ? Elle est le soleil, et je veux que tu deviennes cette pierre. Voilà une aventure bien dangereuse. Voilà ce qu’il te faut.

    As-tu le droit de l’aimer, mon frère ? As-tu la force et le courage?

    T’es-tu battu pour elle ? Contre qui t’es-tu battu ? Comme demanderait un sage allemand, “Es-tu victorieux, vainqueur de toi-même, souverain des sens, maître de ses vertus ?”

    Si après ta victoire sur toi-même, elle ne te regarde toujours pas, au moins ne t’aimera-t-elle pas par pitié. Au moins auras-tu ton amour-propre avec toi. Ceux qui ne se sont pas vaincus détestent le côté amer de l’amour, ce côté amer qui souvent se transforme en haine contre soi-même, la personne aimée et le monde.

    Car c’est son amour que tu veux et non sa pitié. Montre-moi que tu en es digne. L’homme qui aspire à l’amour doit avant tout se surpasser. Oohh mon frère, l’amour est une montagne bien trop haute, et quiconque prétendra cela doit être capable de supporter la chute du haut de cette montagne. Quiconque prétend à l’amour risque le gouffre qui s’y cache. Voilà pourquoi je veux que tu te rendes meilleur. Tu ne te rends pas juste digne d’amour mais aussi digne d’une potentielle chute du haut de la montagne de cet amour. En dessous de la montagne de l’amour se cache un abîme, et cet abîme c’est la haine. Une telle souffrance, je ne la souhaite pas à mon pire ennemi.

  • How to save the world?

    March 5th, 2024

    This is out of sight. But something to consider is making yourself better every day. Have you conquered and made peace with your fear and demons? Maybe the world shall be saved by your becoming a better person. A person you are proud to see, a person you are proud to look at in the mirrow. Transcend Yourself.

    Regards.

  • Voluntary imprisonment

    March 4th, 2024

    I hear you complaining again, as if things aren’t going well in your life. But what do you mean by that? You’re here in this country as an illegal immigrant, yes, but let’s be honest—you didn’t enter illegally, you just overstayed your visa. In fact you made that choice. So, why are you frowning and lamenting over your situation? What gives you the right to feel so sorry for yourself? You want your rights to be respected, but before you speak of your rights, let’s talk about your responsibilities. The respect you’re hoping for depends on the respect you show toward your duties. You’ll never earn that respect if you don’t take responsibility for your own choices. In this case you chose to stay, and to bring the case before the court.

    You’ve chosen to live, so you must live bravely. Your burden may feel heavy, but you must show that you are worthy of carrying it.

    Self-imposed prisons, huh? What could be better than choosing your own suffering? You chose your suffering, so bear it bravely.

    How do I want you to behave in this country? Avoid anything that would make you unnecessarily noticeable. You’re here on a mission—on a mission to learn, to learn about life, to learn what it’s made of. You’re on a mission to learn about yourself.

    When does this self-imposed sentence end? When you are complete. When you’ve won the battle within yourself. When you’ve learned everything there is to know about life.

    Can’t you learn from the comfort of home? Of course, but you won’t. You’d be enjoying the warmth of your parents’ home, and you wouldn’t be making the most of the potential you have inside you. You need to see what the world outside has to offer, so you can understand what you need to bring back with you. That’s why you need to learn as quickly as you can. You’re not going to be young forever. You can’t waste your youth.

    Your presence here is already a burden, don’t make it heavier. You are illegal, at least be just and ethical. Don’t take more than you give. Work as hard as you can, to not be too much of a burden in this country.

    Tough moments will come, and when they do, you need to be worthy of them. Don’t let self-pity show on your face, not even for a second. You don’t have to endure everything, but when something threatens your honor or dignity, you must say no. It’ll be hard, but that’s the only thing you have that will never leave you.

    Is it honorable you ask? Doesn’t this situation make you a thief, and a coward? Well, many in the host country will look at you like a coward, but your family and community already look at you like a hero, but overall, remember, that as long as you don’t hurt anyone, as long as you behave yourself justly, ethically despite the context of the situation you are not a scoundrel. In fact do not worry too much about this for now, only time will tell whether or not you are scoundrel and a coward.

    It’s just another one of those moments. Do you remember T, the boy who wanted to go to school so badly that, when he realized he didn’t have the resources, he hid under the bench to avoid being sent home by the disciplinarian? His friend helped him hide, so he could stay in school. The teacher eventually found out that T didn’t have books—only a soccer ball and food in his bag, hidden there by his friend. That was the deal, you keep the food and the ball, and we hide you. He stayed at the back of the class, unnoticed. You are that child. This is another one of those situations, and now you must seize every opportunity to learn. You did it once before, so why wouldn’t you do it now?

    Do you need a reason to continue? Well, think about that friend of yours who passed away at twenty-five, fighting an illness until the very last moment. He fought until he couldn’t anymore. And here you are, healthy, full of life, and you feel sorry for yourself. “I may not be physically sick,” you say, “but my spirit is.” I understand. But that’s even more reason to endure what life brings. I don’t want you to live just for yourself; I want you to live for that friend who died in his hospital bed. Not just for him, but for all those who didn’t have the chance to live long, who got lost in drugs, alcohol, accidents, and worse. Some of your friends and others you know are struggling just to stay alive. You’re not fighting just for yourself, you’re fighting for them too. You need to transcend yourself. You need to be an example to them. You must improve every single day. If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for those who don’t have the fortune you do, to be healthy. It is your obligation to better yourself, because you have the opportunity. If you can’t believe in yourself, remember that others believe in you—people back home.

    You’ve been weak before. So many times, you’ve shown weaknesses. But now, I see you bravely leaving that victimhood mentality behind.

    Life is hard, you say? No, life is not hard. Life is giving you a chance to build a great character.

    Have you looked at the man on the cross? What does he tell you? How does he speak to you? What does he appeal to within you?

    You do not want to give in to your vices. You don’t want to walk down those paths of misery. Those who lie are never truly free.

    I want you to be able to be sent to any country, with nothing in your hands, and still live without any problems. This is robustness.

    Farewell.

  • On Learning 2

    March 3rd, 2024

    Can you just imagine what life would be if kids where afraid to learn? We won’t have gotten anywhere in the world. The first requirement for learning anything is curiosity. This is the big difference between kids and adults. Kids are bold enough to be curious, they want to know what is unknown, while, adults will say, “This is okay. I have made enough. I have done enough. I should stop everything here.” Or, “There is actually no other line after this one, I should consider inertia and observing things as they are. And nobody should do anything to disturb this stability, otherwise I will pierce him”. The adult is so afraid of what he or she doesn’t know. How many times have I seen that in you my friend.

    It is just unbelievable how terrified you got since you became an adults.

    It looks to me that fear is what adults feed themselves with. It paralyzes others, while giving an unbelievable power to others. Fear is the reason why we do or fail to do certain things extremely important for our survival. I dare you to face your deep sitted fear. To use it. To transcend it. To transcend yourself.

    You refuse to be curious because you are afraid that what you will find out will force you to rethink your way of life. That is painful. It is painful to start the work allover again. You will rather live with an old lie. Learning the truth is very very painful. I consent, and that is why I want you to transcend yourself. Become a child. Good luck.

    Your best friend.

  • To let go

    March 1st, 2024

    In a heartbreak, when the beloved leaves, you are given the space to renew yourself—especially if that person does not return. The absence can feel like a wound, but it also creates room for growth. It is in this emptiness that you find an opportunity to rebuild, but there are other things or people that are much harder to give up voluntarily. These are the ones that linger, that never truly leave. Even when they do, the hole they leave behind is so vast and heavy that it is impossible to ignore.

    These things or people often have a way of coming back, in one form or another. You allow them back, time and time again, hoping that this time they will fit back into the space they once occupied. The difficulty lies in the compromises you make to bring them back. When you do so without taking the necessary time to heal, their return doesn’t quite fill the void as it once did. Instead, you are left with the uncomfortable feeling of something unfinished. You need time and energy—both mental and physical—to fill that space with something new, something that will not make you uneasy. This process is a kind of death and resurrection.

    To let go is to understand what it means to die, at least metaphorically. Only after this figurative “death” can you rise again, not as the same person you were, but as someone who has learned from the experience, someone stronger, someone better. This rebirth is not an easy process, but it is essential for growth. In order to heal and move forward, you must face the void and allow yourself the time and space to rebuild, to form a new version of yourself from the ashes of what was once.

    When you emerge from this process, you want to have built something that can protect you from further pain, something that will shield you without making you rigid. This “armor” is not about becoming immune to future hurt but about becoming resilient, capable of facing life’s challenges without being destroyed. It is the knowledge that, while you may break again, you will also rise again, stronger and more aware of what you need to heal.

    Letting go is one of the most difficult things a person can do, but it is also one of the most transformative. It is through letting go, through experiencing that metaphorical death and rising from it, that you can create something better, something more whole. The process requires time, patience, and effort, but it is necessary to move beyond the pain and build a version of yourself that is not defined by what you have lost but by how you have chosen to grow from it.


    Farewell

  • On Instantaneous Eternity

    February 29th, 2024

    Certain things done seem eternal. It is as if the future never existed and so is the case for the past, non exist. They make us alive and profound. Anything out of that is inexistent. In fact our existence itself is define on those “things”. Even if the world comes against us in those moments we will do what we have to do or let’s say what we think we have to do.

    You know it, for instance, when you are in the presence of the loved one. When you move to an intensive high or creative moment. On a new adventure arrousing all your senses, in deep suffering with a reason to live for, everything in the world is in pause. Only the source of such intensity matters.

    This is what happens when you are addicted. The moment you take the substance or indulge into the addictive behavior is unique in itself. Think about the number of times you fell into food, heroin, drugs, porn, and the moment you said never again. This are very different moments. You are different in those moments. Yes, my man, you are a function.

    No single moment of your live is the same, there might be some ressemblance but still there are tiny differences. Your way of lifting up your hand right now is different from you way of lifting up that same hand after 1hr from now. Although it is the same hand, the same movement, nothing tells you there isn’t a small difference, which makes the activity unique in itself. Unique so much so that nothing will replicate it. No matter how much you try to bring back all the other variables, there is something you will fail to take into consideration, even if the most essential variables are present for the thing to be replicated. Even if the difference is small like an atom, that atomic thing can make the difference. In fact it, it is what makes the difference.

    You are constantly looking for that think which makes you profound. I am afraid you would usually get lost on the way. Transcend your limits my friend, this makes you profound.

    Regards.

  • Obsession

    February 28th, 2024

    “What is the limit?” You asked.

    Obsession. I want you to be obsessed with making yourself a better person. To transcend yourself. To move beyond your limits, that is what I expect of you my friend. In all your endeavors you have the obligation to transcend yourself.

  • Life’s challenges

    February 26th, 2024

    How lucky! How lucky! Oh my friend! Life is challenging you! What a privilege you have. For you are given the opportunity to test your values and principles. Every challenge is an opportunity to act for the good. To be better. To be your best. You don’t want to miss these chances! Transcend your limits!

  • Solitude

    February 25th, 2024

    The Struggle with Solitude: What Do We Flee From?

    Why is solitude unbearable? What do we run from within it?

    You avoided solitude because it was like avoiding yourself. The more you turned to others, the more you became isolated, for you were not keeping your own company. Now, with no one but yourself around, you find it difficult to converse with your own mind. You’ve been estranged from yourself for so long that you’ve become a stranger to your own soul.

    Now, you understand why you sought a friend to talk to—a false friend, no less. It was because you were alone. You felt that solitude within you, that ache of disconnection. It was in solitude that you realized you had never truly known where to go in life. You followed the trends, the expectations around you, but you never truly sat down to ask yourself where you might want to go. Solitude tests your identity. And you failed that test. Everything you did, everything you became in the past, was an attempt to adapt. The crowd became your nourishment, their approval your water, like a vampire feeding on blood. You lived to please the masses.

    When you feed off others, when they become your drug, their absence brings a painful truth: You’ve lost yourself along the way. It is truly painful for a man not to know who he is. When left alone, he will not know where to go, and that brings another kind of pain. Do not doubt it—solitude is a chamber of hell.

    What’s Worse: Being Lost in Solitude or in a Crowd?

    What is worse—being alone while chasing after a goal, or being surrounded by people without knowing where you’re going?

    When you’re surrounded, it seems like you always know where you’re heading because you can talk and listen to others, sharing in their ideas. Unconsciously, you start moving in the same direction as them. We tend to imagine that the final destination of everything is the group, so we follow along. But have you ever been with yourself?

    No. You’ve never truly been alone, and upon realizing that, you’re now even more afraid of solitude. Another painful truth is that not keeping up with the group brings its own discomfort. For example, not having the latest iPhone like your friends or not being as popular as they are is painful. Even when you don’t want to, you force yourself to stay “up to date.” The greatest pain, however, is having your own thoughts.

    The Pain of Lies and the Search for Truth

    We often lie to ourselves until the lies become unbearable. There comes a point where you have only two options: either turn the lie into truth, or face it and endure the consequences of confronting it. Sometimes, being alone is the only way to test the truth within yourself. It drives you mad when you’ve been a deceiver to your own soul for too long.

    What makes solitude so painful is that, in it, there is absolutely no one—not even yourself. Consider yourself the bridge between the past and the future. You stand in the middle of these two selves. You shouldn’t belong to either side. In other words, neither the past nor the future should define you. You must simply be. Be the link: the man of the present. If you move from your position as the link, the past or the future will create friction, pulling your thoughts either toward past mistakes or future opportunities. A life like this is filled with pain.

    We cannot endure being alone because we have used something other than our true selves as an intermediary. If you’re alone and don’t know where to go, endure the pain of finding your true self first. If you are surrounded by others, always be mindful of those moments when you are about to lie. That could be the antidote to your solitude. (Though I’m not entirely sure, as I have not fully tested this myself. I still struggle with being alone, but it’s a hypothesis I’m trying to prove, and it has worked to some extent.)

    The Paradox of Life

    Dear reader, I don’t fully understand what I just wrote in the above paragraph; it flowed on its own.

    Never forget this: Every human is a social negotiator. We all negotiate to be part of a group, or we negotiate for others to follow ours. Lone wolves are rare these days.

    Note: Solitude differs from isolation. Isolation means you are completely cut off from the outside world, whereas in solitude, you can still be surrounded by people. This is how I see it, at least.

    If you truly don’t know where you want to go, start by writing down where you don’t want to go. But how can you know unless you’ve tried new paths, met new people, or explored new concepts and ideas? This is the paradox of life. Yes, you’ve understood it: we are told to live, but no one tells us how. We learn to live by living. Alas, dear friend, I cannot tell you how to live. That is a question you alone must answer.

    Good luck,

    Your worst enemy.

  • Des Ennemis–FR

    February 25th, 2024


    Tu ne devrais pas avoir peur d’avoir des ennemis. Seuls les lâches et les personnes inauthentiques n’en ont pas pas.

    Néanmoins, lorsque tu as un ennemi, pose-toi quelques questions : Est-il ou elle digne ? Mieux encore, est-ce que tu admires quelque chose en lui ou elle ? Est-il meilleur que toi ? Eh bien, tu as besoin de quelqu’un capable de te pousser au-delà de tes limites. C’est pourquoi tu dois désirer l’élévation de ton ennemi. Plus il est loin de toi, plus tu dois travailler dur. Plus tu deviens meilleur. Ton ennemi devrait être ton idéal. Ce qui te rend meilleur. Ton meilleur ami. C’est ce que je veux de toi, mon ami.

    Rappelle-toi : la seule façon de battre un ennemi est de devenir meilleur chaque jour. Un ennemi que tu admires vaut plus que celui qui te rend indifférent.

    Si tu décides de combattre, il ne devrait y avoir aucun coup bas. Seuls les lâches font ça.

    AVEC HONNEUR, DIGNITÉ ET RESPECT, surtout quand il s’agit d’ennemis.

    Salutations,

    Meilleur ami / pire ennemi.

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