Identity?

Learning to say “NO”

Of all your flaws, what hurts you the most is your incapacity to say no. It is characteristic of those who, like you, don’t know the proper limits to things, to say “yes” to everything. It is also a proof of your weakness of character. People know that and take advantage of that. You are the first to take advantage of that. Farewell.

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The ultimate tasks

As your father told you, never shall you remain on a task. Consider life as your ultimate task. Like every task, there shall be an end. So, like all the task you are brought to do, I want you to give your all, your best. The rest is none of your business. Keep in mind: compared to other task, only life will tell you when she is over with you.

Regards.

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Stagnation

After a steady moment of improvement, I started stagnating on the work on my body. I remained at the same level for two weeks now when it comes to weight loss. To reach my goal, I must make sacrifices. I must pay a price and that is what I am still thinking about and doubting myself. I go and come back. Go and come back, knowing fully that this is not going to bring me to the ultimate weight I am looking for .

Had an amazing conversation with a good friend of mine. He graduated and he is finally moving to a new place with a new job paying him a six figure salary. This is hugely encouraging. This is hugely pushing forward. Now I leave with the hope about the idea that it is possible for me to make this thing happen. It is possible to make it real.

Think about all what you’ve been through? Think about this girl that rejected from marriage. Then the German girl that didn’t even want to have dinner with you. Think about you collage dropout. Your confusion when it comes to live and how to live it. Think about your OQTF. Think about looking for a job. All the humiliation you had to endure. Think about the fact that you lived in the street and went through it. Think about the fact that you’ve been seen by those for whom you’ve worked for as a nobrainer who can’t do anything of his life. Man, you’ve had all bad feedback. Have you learned? What have you learned ?? You were wrong about psychology. You were wrong about restauration, although you have a steady result on that, it take most of your time. You were wrong about your boss and the old boss, he wanted most of your time and you would have sacrifice you youth to that. All those who told you you shouldn’t be looking for capitalism here in Europe are liars because that is exactly how they live their lives.

Think about porn, you locked yourself in that because of the countless rejections you’ve got from girls . Are you about to look at yourself as a failure ?? Are you about to fail your life man??

What exactly would it mean to fail even? Well it will mean to remain dependent on other people for the rest of my life. It means remaining a slave just as I am right now. I’m not free because of my lack of visa. And it is for this reason that the chef even tried to take advantage of me. It is for this reason that he didn’t want to let me go without making sure that I am completely and fully crushed by him. It is because I don’t have a visa that I am generally nice to people. Otherwise I would have brought out their bullshit whenever justice would require that of me.

I will buy nana’s kitchen for she help saving me when I was about to move on the street. I don’t want any debt. I will make sure I don’t have any debt.

Of course it is in you. Of course you are never sure of what there is to do. Of course you are never sure of where to go. Life is a hell of a thing and all you can do is advance small. So are you fill with doubt. It is a proof that the decisions or actions to be taken are decisive. Whatever the case, just do it my friend, and don’t be afraid to fail.

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Never enter enter an asymmetric relationship. Whether it is you or the other party having more advantage in terms of the common goal.

The more I get rejected, the less scared I am of rejection. Remember, do not get rejected by the same person many times. As a friend of mine told me, moving many times to a person that rejected you is a form of harassment. You never want to move back to them, but you want to know why they rejected you. No need to asked them, for people generally signal what there is in you that repels them. It is up to you, after all self assessment, to decide if you will precipitate that part of you into the flames

People will tell you what is good for you or what will save you base on what saved them.

Detail

It is painful to like someone and to realize that some details will make compatibility impossible. Nomatter how many similarities there exist between you. The details make the difference. A very big difference.

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Flaws

You think more about other people than yourself. You try to understand the reason why they did x or y, then justifying their dids with the created explanations. Most of those explanations aren’t made from good will but out of fear of confrontation. It is easier than dealing with the real issue.

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The only reason you don’t move forward is because of distractions. You are distracted by everything. Get your act together on one thing very important and focus on that. But how can you do that when the basic things like food, housing and resident permits are not put into place? Don’t think too much about this. But how do you stop thinking too much about such things when they will determine the course of your life? It is not like these things are not important, but don’t kill yourself for things you cannot control. Focus on what will give you those things not on them directly. They are the derivatives of hard work. Work extremely hard on yourself and the world will be yours. Haven’t you heard that the world belongs to the man who conquered himself?

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Too nice, way too nice, this has to stop, you rarely and hardly say no. People will take advantage of that too easily. Whenever you talk to someone, and It is about to turn into a fight, you start smiling, as if there is no problem, until the problem manifests itself later, because it is too large of a problem to avoid Now.

For now you look at it as a torture. But the moment will come my friend. And even if it never comes, I want you to continue learning. This is what it is about my friend. You evolve by learning. Remember that I urged you to transcend yourself my friend. To do that you must learn every single day, especially about your imperfections, until you die.

Regards,

Best Friend.

You should not let a day passe without you becoming better. Transcent your limits, go beyond yourself. This is what I want from you my dear Thierry.

I am your best friend and your worse ennemi. I am what you aspire to be. I am your beginning and you your end. I am the definition of what gives meaning to your life. I am your ideal. I will give you the lessons you need. For I want you to move to another phase of your life, I want you to get something big out of your life. Nobody on the face of the earth wants your good as I do. I will push you in every possible direction, to make sure that you become the man that you are suppose to be.

Let me start with a question my friend?

WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR YOUR LIFE?

You are terrified of this question, aren’t you? But you clearly know that I am not the one asking you this question. Life itself if questioning you. And you must answer this question, if not today then one day or the other you will be brought to answer it.

A moment will come my friend, when you will question your own existence, those moments should be remembered and every emotion felt should be written down, they are what make you profound. I want you to live my friend, go about in books you have before you, get to know people and how to act about that.

If you are to communicate, let it be the truth only. Only after having a clear picture of who you are, will you know if you are fit to move a long way ahead. You suffer because the people you love are not what you want them to be or as you envisionned them (including yourself). To know each other, you must communicate. Through communication you get to know the truth about each other’s personality. It will determine how far you can move with one another. You will not be able to have a genuin relationship unless you come to love/like each other’s personality. So, my dear friend, never force anyone to love/like your personality or force yourself to love another person’s personality. But how often do you fail to do that? Many times.

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Whenever you say the truth, you free some space in your mine. You don’t have to remember or to orchestrate anything in order to make it remain a truth. A lie must constantly be redefined. It feeds on itself. Lying implies a lot of thought. It is an artificial connection of variables. A liar must make sure that all those variables are present for his lie to remain believable, for his lie to remain a “truth”. That is why lies feed on themselves, they have to be constantly checked. It must constantly be revised, rearrange, in order to give the same result: Another LIE. A truth is a constant. You are not yet up to that level my dear friend Thierry, I want you to make it a habit of telling the truth, acting truthfully.

I don’t yet know of any animal apart from man that lies.

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Whenever you face a problem, the first and easiest thing to do is to seat and dodge the problem, to hide it under the carpet as if it never existed and will have no consequences in your life. The second and hardest one is to think about the problem with the desire to solve it and taking actions to solve it. And nothing is as painful and rewarding as the second approach. So many times have you hide yourself from your problems.

It is very common to pretent that you are solving a problems. You enter into a delusional solution to your problem. You invent a solution you know is not a solution, just to avoid dealing with the problems, but it always come back. If you really want to solve a problem, do it with the intention to never have to face it again. You may encounter such a problem in the future but because of the level of focus and seriousness with which you solved the first one, the second problem should be easy for you.

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When it comes to relationships my friend, don’t move if you don’t know who you are and where it is that you wanna go. This is one of your flaws my friend: You engage yourself too fast. It is an obligation to study whom or what you have before you, especially yourself.

It is pointless to say that if you had someone’s advantages you would have done something great. It is pointless to say that you failed because you don’t have this or that. Especially today, with so many advantages. You always thing of what you would have done if you had X or Y. Remember, even the person having X or Y is thinking of what he would have done if he had A or B. Transcend yourself. Go for it, and if necessary perish in the persuit.

Regards,

Bestfriend and Enemy.