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A personal reflection on failure, growth, and learning from mistakes. Discover how the struggle for personal and professional growth shapes life’s journey.
The Cycle of Failure
This is what my life looks like: failure to failure, all but that, all but that.
When starting something new, like the enterprise I’m currently involved in, it’s easy to be seen as the one who makes mistakes—even when that’s not the full story. My first instinct was to confront the situation and show my frustration. But I’ve changed my approach. Instead, I’ve decided to be more assertive. I will stop pretending like I know nothing and instead, stand firm in what I do know. I will confidently ask questions about what I don’t know.
It’s time to take action. Otherwise, I risk becoming the person who makes mistakes that others have to clean up. No. This will not happen. I will not make mistakes for others to deal with. Before I turn 23, I will be part of the kitchen. This is my objective, and I will achieve it. Good luck, buddy.
I have to prove my competence—not for anyone else, but for myself.
The Reality of My Journey
How funny it is to read these words now. I succeeded in entering the kitchen, but I was never truly considered part of it. Why? Despite my desire to belong, despite proving my willingness and determination, I lacked the courage to say no. I didn’t have the strength to stick to my objective.
Instead, I made excuses for myself. I created stories to justify my choices, just as I did with Nathasha when I moved to the administrative side. And now, I know very little about cooking.
This is a failure, and I must admit it. I failed to reach the goal I set for myself. I left Martial without learning how to cook, even though I told myself I’d accomplish that by the time I turned 23.
The Path Forward: Taking Responsibility
So, what now? What comes next? Who can I blame? No one but myself—my inability to say no, both to others and to myself. I didn’t even take the time to think when the chef suggested I switch to administrative work. I let it go without a second thought.
I wanted something real, something concrete, like cooking. And I failed. I promised myself I would make myself indispensable in the kitchen, ensuring everything I did contributed to the team. But now, the truth is this: people don’t care about what I’ve done outside the kitchen. The logistics and administrative work don’t matter in this field. What truly matters is what I’ve built within the kitchen itself.
Final Thoughts: Learning from Failure
Failure is a tough pill to swallow, but it’s part of the process. I must take responsibility for the choices I made, and learn from them. The next step is to stay committed to my goals and not allow distractions or fears to dictate my decisions. The real work begins now.
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