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Discover the importance of focusing on yourself, eliminating distractions, and taking control of your life. Learn how to overcome fear, confront challenges, and build a meaningful future by staying true to yourself.
The Distraction of Others’ Expectations
You constantly focus on others, trying to understand why they act the way they do, and you rationalize their actions to avoid confrontation. Most of these justifications stem from fear—fear of challenging them, fear of the unknown. It’s easier to explain their behavior than to face the uncomfortable reality head-on. But the truth is, this cycle holds you back.
The Power of Focus
The only thing standing between you and progress is distractions. Everything around you pulls you in different directions. You need to focus on one thing, one priority, and commit to it—but how can you do that when the basics—food, housing, residency—aren’t stable?
It’s important not to dwell on these issues too much. Yes, they are significant and must be addressed, but they shouldn’t consume you. Remember that these are byproducts of hard work, not the primary goal. Focus on personal growth, and the world will follow. After all, haven’t you heard? The world belongs to the man who conquers himself.
The Problem with Being Too Nice
You’ve been told you’re too nice—and it’s true. You rarely say no, allowing people to take advantage of your kindness. When conflict arises, you avoid confrontation by pretending everything’s fine. This only builds frustration, and eventually, the problem becomes too big to ignore.
The Fear of Rejection
With women, your excessive kindness may stem from wanting to act differently than your dad did with your mom. You wanted to be the opposite, to be someone who shows love without reservations. But in doing so, you’ve allowed yourself to be walked over. This pattern took root during your school years when distractions like chasing girls, watching porn, and seeking validation led you astray.
You were desperate to fit in, to belong. With Vania, love seemed natural, but fear held you back. With others—H, N, L—it wasn’t about love. It was an attempt to impress, to show off, and to align with the group’s expectations. The real issue: You were chasing the wrong things.
The Lies We Tell Ourselves
The relationships you’ve had—MORVA included—make you question whether they were truly based on love, or just another way to fit in. You’ve been lying to yourself, playing a role that isn’t authentic. You know deep down that you’re not that person yet. To be in a meaningful relationship, you first need to become someone you’re happy to be with.
Confronting Your Own Patterns
You’ve suffered by forcing yourself into molds that aren’t right for you. The solution is simple: Be yourself. If anyone is to blame, it’s you for never setting boundaries. You agreed to move from washing dishes to cooking but didn’t speak up when the change never happened. The result? Accumulated frustration, resentment, and a lack of progress.
This has been your pattern: you hold things in until the frustration builds up. But it’s time to stop bottling things up. Address issues immediately.
Taking Control of Your Life and Appearance
You also neglect your physical appearance, which is an important factor if you want to be in an intimate relationship. You may think someone will just notice you and fall in love, but that’s not how it works. You need to reflect who you are in your appearance. Find your personal style and take care of yourself—because you deserve it, not because others expect it.
Stop Waiting for Guidance
You have a tendency to wait for someone to tell you what to do—whether it’s what to learn, when to act, or how to move forward. You waited for notes during your IB years, faced exams unprepared, and even let others shape your CV. How can you expect to achieve your goals—let alone become a billionaire—if you let others control your decisions?
The truth is, you’re still in the learning phase. You’re far from having it all figured out, and that’s okay. You have a long journey ahead, and the first step is taking ownership of it.
The Importance of Self-Reliance
You often understand things for others that they need to understand for themselves. You feel it’s your duty to help, but in doing so, you lose focus on your own growth. It’s time to stop this cycle. Focus on your path. Be your own guide, and allow others to figure things out for themselves.
Final Thoughts: Own Your Journey
The world won’t hand you what you want. You must take control and stop waiting for validation or permission from others. The key to your future is in your own hands. Conquer yourself first, and everything else will follow.
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