Sometimes, no, most of the time instead of “helping” people suffering, the best thing to do is to show some respect.

What if the suffering is precisely what the person needs? His personal cross to bear? The road towards his elevation?

As an illegal in country, many came to pity my friend for his situation. Many thought of his working hard as a form of exploitation. They believed he was unhappy for all the long hours of work. What’s more interesting, is that, he also, started believing in that. He started thinking that he was “unhappy”, as everyone will think. he started defining happiness based on others definition of happiness. He unconsciously started complaining about his life. To have the approval of those around him. He entered into side gossips. To validates others view of him as the victim of some grand skim.

The “suffering” is precisely what he longed for. When he left that space of “hell” as others will say, he went back to it. For it was precisely what he needed for his elevation. He understood that it was his cross to bear. Many man cannot bear the face of an enduring man. For he proves them that they have been avoiding what they should have carried a long time ago. That is why they want you to go easy. You shouldn’t be a living testimony of their been mediocre with themselves.

If you are not careful, you will believe in this philosophy. What a meaningless life for a person like my friend.

Some people find meaning in others people suffering. We want to bring them out of that suffering, out of charity. What if it is purely out of ego. To prove to ourselves that we are charitable. To prove to the world that we are charitable. Your “pity” and “charity” might be more unbearable than the person’s “suffering”.

The devil also has some noble characters, otherwise, why will he be considered one of God’s angel. Go to “hell” my friend and face the devil. Your demons. Become a man.

Farewell.